So many people go through their lives and wonder if they are meant to be successful or are they just destined to fail.
Let me ask you something; how good can your ride a bike right now? Most of us can ride them perfectly well. So, do you remember when you couldn’t?
I remember when I couldn’t ride a bike, it use to kill me inside. The best part about it though, was that everyday that I got on my bike, I did better and better and I began to let go of the fear of getting hurt or losing control of my bike and guess what?
One day after facing fear so many times, I realized that it’s ok and I just went with the flow. I had to choose what was more important, me holding on to this fear, or me having fun riding my bike.
So, here I am, I can now ride with no hands, I can even balance myself to turn corners without even touching the handle bars (saaweeet 🙂
I am now GREAT! Not good but GREAT! (if only I would have let go of that fear earlier).
Ironically, when I started, I failed so may times. I was worried that I’d never get it but I wasn’t going to let fear paralyze me because I wanted it so bad.
I went from failing constantly, to being great.
So, if we look at this you’ll realize that the person who was failing and the person who is now great are two completely different people. Not only do they have different levels of confidence but they feel, think and act differently.
The real question is, if I can go from failure to greatness, doesn’t that mean greatness was always there to begin with?
Doesn’t that mean, I always had the capacity to be great in the first place?
The answer is a resounding yes.
So, what does that tell you?
That tells you that, most of us who are unsuccessful are simply unsuccessful because they have not pushed past the boundaries of fear and are afraid of risk to witness greatness that is within them.
Failure is simply a part of the learning experience, nothing else. We all need contrast and without failure, how can you possibly know what works and what doesn’t work?
If you want to be successful and great, “like my awesome bike riding skills” then I suggest you let go of your fear and stop worrying about failure… but how?
First, let’s discuss what fear is.
Fear is simply, you focusing on outcomes that don’t exist. You’re living in your imagination, with a million bad outcomes and none of them have actually happened.
So many people are afraid of the dark but not once in the history of life has darkness ever hurt anyone. Their over active imagination takes over. Darkness is just the absence of light and whatever you fear is just the absence of your mind’s focus in reality.
To get rid of fear, you have to safely close the gap from where you are, to where you want to go.
For example, it took me about a week or two to get over my fear of riding a bike. What I could have done is went somewhere safe and had someone to push me and just went with the flow. I could have done that in one day but please remember, everyone learns at their own pace.
You have to realize that, if you keep waiting for the perfect time then, you’ll be waiting forever. Find a way to close the gap from your reality, to your dream and just DO IT. Soon, the things you dream about will undoubtedly become your reality. Risk it, Do it…
The worst thing that can happen is you DIE, do you believe that you’ll die if you did whatever you feared?
It’s ok to fear. It’s not ok to let fear paralyze you
Let me know your thoughts, I’d love to hear them.